Hi Everyone, Happy Friday :) Yes, Friday Funnies, how did you guess?? I was so sad last Saturday Night to realize there was no Wanda Skyes show on at 11pm!! I loved her show, I think she is a genius when it comes to comedy. I'm hoping it is not canceled, until I know for sure I'll just have to YouTube her when I need a good laugh. Pete loved my last post and the video, so when I sat down to watch tv with him last night he started singing, in his comic way, as he held my hand "You are so Beautiful to Me", he is too funny and sweet at the same time, I love that :) I can't wait until Sunday, it is Briana's 3rd Birthday party! She is such a riot, ever since Christa had her birthday, just about every day it's "Mommy is today my Birthday party"? So now that the time is finally coming she's more than glad to help Mom get everything in order, oh ya, she was putting on her little brother's shoes so they could get out of the house to get the Party Hats!! I've never known a three yr old who wants to jump in a car and go store hoping, little miss big I call her now, she's going to make sure her party gets done and done right, guess she does take after me, wait, maybe that's not a good thing LOL! I love when I post her pictures on Facebook, I usually get a few, she looks like you Janet, is that your clone Janet? I think it's just the blonde hair and blue eyes. These clips may seem long to you, but I guarantee you will be laughing your ass off and the time will just fly by, I know it does for me. Better yet, go rent yourself the full DVD for a night of laughs, I'ma be me as you see on the the clips, an HBO special by her.
Have a great day,
Thanks for visiting my blog,
Love ya,
Janet :)
Everything went white LOL!
I know it was dead, I saw it LMAO!!
Thursday, September 30, 2010
Meet My Daughter Brianna!!
A lot of people wanted a post on my daughter to learn about her hair regimen, maintenance etc. I talked to her last night to see how she felt about making her appearance on my blog and she was thrilled [part of it was because she got to stay up an extra 15 minutes].
Meet Brianna; a super-inquisitive, very talkative, extremely tall nine year old. Brianna maintains a regimen that is very much like her attitude. Very low-fuss. Her regimen includes shampooing and conditioning weekly, moisturizing with Silk Elements Silken Child Moisturizer and sealing with Vatika Oil. At night, her hair is tucked away in a loose bun, and she sleeps on a satin pillowcase.
Brianna's hair is usually styled in two braided pigtails on either side or a low bun. This is less stress on the hair follicles and means less chance of breakage from ponytails holders. Because Brianna is only nine, we have yet to experiment with heat [except for the time great grandma blow-dried her hair *side-eye* lol] but it may be considered in her teenage years. 
[ends are protected and ready for bed]
When do you feel it is appropriate for a child to get their hair pressed?
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Sound Off! Why On Earth Would I Put Oil On My Oily Skin?
Love this pic! [source]As I mentioned in my post Tue, some people may cringe at the thought of adding oil to a face that is already prone to acne. This is a logical and justifiable concern! Yesterday, I received a few questions in the comment section of my skincare post; and I thought it would be better served if I answered them in the form of a blog post for others that may have some of the same concerns.
In addition, if you have any questions/concerns on this post, or the oil cleansing method in general; please feel free to leave them in the comment section so that we can create somewhat of a resource for others who are looking for answers as well!
In addition, if you have any questions/concerns on this post, or the oil cleansing method in general; please feel free to leave them in the comment section so that we can create somewhat of a resource for others who are looking for answers as well!
Your Questions:
"Is there even any conclusive, empirical, scientific, quantifiable, peer-reviewed EVIDENCE of the effectiveness of this so called method?"My Response:
"Furthermore what are the mechanisms that render it effective? HOW DOES WASHING ONE'S ALREADY SEBUM FILLED FACE WITH OIL IMPROVE ONE'S FACIAL CONDITION!?"
"I understand the spirit with which Chidi asked the question. So, MTM: Is there evidence, other than anecdotal, regarding the effectiveness of oils to cleanse skin, esp. those of us with problem skin?"
Oil will not exasperate your issues with acne if you are breakout prone. Sebum is a non-polar molecule which means it is unable to dissolve in polar molecules like water. This is why most facial cleansers, laundry detergent, soaps, and shampoo's are formulated with harsh surfactants like Sodium Laureth Sulfate. This is a cheap, synthetic, man-made ingredient used to remove excess oils, dirt and sebum.
When you clean your face with products that contain harsh surfactants, it strips your skin leaving it dry. As a result, your glands go into overproduction mode to make up for the lack of moisture. What you are left with is an endless cycle of dryness coupled with an overproduction of sebum.
The general rule of thumb in chemistry is that "like dissolves like". Non-polar molecules are able to dissolve in non-polar solvents. Relating this to skincare, the oil in your cleansing mixture is able to dissolve excess oil and fatty deposits that are present in the pores and hair follicles of your skin. Scientifically this is possible because sebum [in this case the solute] and the oils mentioned in the post [we'll call these the solvents] are structurally compatible.
Excess sebum is due in part to the lack of Linoleic Acid present in the hair follicles, as Linoleic Acid reduces the output of sebum. Studies show that Linoleic Acid [a fatty acid found in many of the vegetable oils referenced in the post] reduces clogged pores [microcomodones] significantly when used topically [on the skin].
I don't want to veer off into the structure of oils, so I will keep it brief and note a few key pieces of information that may be of use; Jojoba, Hazelnut, Grapeseed, Evening Primrose, Avocado, Kukui and Borage Oil [all the oils mentioned in Tuesday's post] are high in Linoleic Acid. This means that these oils are effective in regulating excess sebum, and preventing clogged pores. These oils are all high in anti-oxidant, and anti-inflammatory properties which lends to their ability to deliver enzymes that dissolves the blockage in your pores.
Excess sebum is due in part to the lack of Linoleic Acid present in the hair follicles, as Linoleic Acid reduces the output of sebum. Studies show that Linoleic Acid [a fatty acid found in many of the vegetable oils referenced in the post] reduces clogged pores [microcomodones] significantly when used topically [on the skin].
I don't want to veer off into the structure of oils, so I will keep it brief and note a few key pieces of information that may be of use; Jojoba, Hazelnut, Grapeseed, Evening Primrose, Avocado, Kukui and Borage Oil [all the oils mentioned in Tuesday's post] are high in Linoleic Acid. This means that these oils are effective in regulating excess sebum, and preventing clogged pores. These oils are all high in anti-oxidant, and anti-inflammatory properties which lends to their ability to deliver enzymes that dissolves the blockage in your pores.
There are many well known, high-end brands out there that consciously formulate products with the health of your skin in mind [albeit they are very expensive]. Take Shu Uemura Cleansing Oil which is formulated with Jojoba & Avocado Oil, or DHC Cleansing Oil formulated with Olive Oil. If you would like to see peer-reviewed evidence of the benefits of cleansing with oil. Check out the reviews on both products [Shu Uemura Review + DHC Cleansing Oil Review]. You can even do a search on the right-hand section of the blog to gain real-time insight [via on-going comments] from MTM readers who started the OCM method, or Acne.Org which has a plethora of reviews on the Oil Cleansing Method.
* Let me point out that the only difference between commercial based cleansing oils and oils that you can formulate in your kitchen, is that commercial based cleansing oils are formulated with emulsifiers that bind water and oil together. This means that when water is introduced to your mixture [lets say as you are washing the product off] a stable emulsion occurs. The emulsifying ingredient does not lend any therapeutic properties to the skin, or prevent skin inflammation. In the case of cleansing oils, it eases the wash-off process. - You can spend an upwards of $25 [8oz] for a product like this, or you can make it yourself for less than a fraction of the cost with the same ingredients [minus the emulsifier].
Over the past 15 years I have collected many commercial books and reports on formulating personal care products [lame I know], and attended courses on the structure of the compounds used to create them. Over the next few months, I will try to get permission from various authors to scan and reproduce these articles on the site in hopes that it arms you with clear cut information about what's in your skincare products and how it benefits [or harms] your skin. Whether you decide to oil cleanse or cleanse using traditional methods like soap and water, we should all know how our products work for us and if there is a natural alternative to what is being offered commercially.
Comments Cited:
Chidi: "I must be bloody ignorant, but how does" [Weblog comment.] 9/30/2010. Clear + Hydrated Skin The Natural Way - Natural Oils Your Skin Will Thank You For. Nikole Crowe. themoptopmaven.com --. 09/29/2010. (http://moptopmaven.blogspot.com/2010/09/clear-hydrated-skin-natural-way-natural.html#comments).
Teachermrw: "Is there even any conclusive, empirical, scientific, quantifiable, peer-reviewed EVIDENCE" [Weblog comment.] 9/30/2010. Clear + Hydrated Skin The Natural Way - Natural Oils Your Skin Will Thank You For. Nikole Crowe. themoptopmaven.com --. 09/29/2010. (http://moptopmaven.blogspot.com/2010/09/clear-hydrated-skin-natural-way-natural.html#comments).
Wednesday, September 29, 2010
Product Review: Macadamia Oil Deep Repair Masque
Company: Macadamia Natural Oils
Price: $4.00 Sample Size - $28 8.5oz - $46 16.9oz
I admit I avoided this stuff like the plague because I thought that this was going to be yet another faddish hair product that used "exotic ingredients" for label appeal yet delivered less than desirable results. While perusing my local beauty supply, I saw a sample size packet [$4.00] of the Macadamia Oil Deep Repair Masque and decided to give it a go.
Tip: Before trying new products, always clarify to remove excess product buildup. This allows you to see exactly how the product works on your hair.
According to the website:
Macadamia Deep Repair Masque is a revitalizing hair reconstructor for dry, damaged hair. A combination of macadamia oil and argan oil along with tea tree oil, chamomile oil, aloe and algae extracts rejuvenate and rebuild the hair, leaving the hair deeply nourished for improved elasticity and shine with long-lasting conditioning benefits.
I clarified with Lanza Daily Clarifying shampoo and followed up with a moisturizing shampoo to correct the PH balance and restore moisture back into my hair. I then applied the entire packet and allowed it to sit [covered with a plastic cap] for about 30 minutes without heat.
After rinsing out the product [with cold water] my hair felt amazing! Check out these ratings:
Softness: 10
Shine: 8
Manageability: 9
Elasticity: 8
Suitable for all hair types [especially the ultra thirsty, brittle, dry strands], I would recommend this to anyone that is looking for a intense moisturizing treatment. If you have dry, brittle hair, this is for you! If you are transitioning and your strands are seriously lacking moisture and elasticity, give this treatment a shot. - I loved this product so much I purchased the 8.5oz size [$28]. For me, $28 is a lot of money to spend on a conditioner, however it worked so well I really couldn't talk myself out of it. I figure I can treat myself to an ultra-hydrating moisturizing treatment once a month.
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Bentonite Clay Hair Mask Treatment >> Video
The Acetic Acid in Apple Cider Vinegar gently removes product buildup, excess sebum, dead skin cells, and bacteria. Apple Cider Vinegar is also beneficial for treating dandruff, nourishing the follicles, and strengthening hair at the roots.
You can find Bentonite Clay in most Health Food stores. Aztec Indian Healing Clay is the brand I normally find in stores like Whole Foods, Trader Joe's and Vitamin Shoppe.
Bentonite Clay masks are beneficial for:
- Transitioners and naturals alike that are looking for a gentle way to clarify
- People who have adverse reactions to shampoo [allergic reactions etc]
- Those looking for natural alternatives to include in their regimen periodically
Bentonite Clay benefits:
- Gently draws out oils, dirt, dead skin cells and product buildup
- Imparts sheen
- Improves wet-combability [which makes detangling a breeze]
- Enhances natural curl pattern
- The nutrients in the Bentonite Clay nourishes the follicles
Points To Remeber:
- You can do this treatment as often as you like
- You can use any liquid of choice [herbal infusions, tea, apple cider vinegar, and coconut cream are all know to produce desirable results]
- For best results, don't let the clay mixture dry on your hair [I usually leave the mixture on for about 20-30 minutes]
- Because Bentonite Clay draws oils and toxins from your tresses, it is recommended that you follow up with a conditioning treatment to restore a bit of moisture
- Do not use metal utensils or bowls to aid in mixing the Bentonite, as contact could reduce the therapeutic effects of the clay [due to the chemical reaction of the metal interacting with the clay].
Tuesday, September 28, 2010
Interview: Celebrity Makeup Artist Tia Dantzler Shares Tips & Tricks of the Trade!!
I have admired the impeccable work of Celebrity Makeup Artist Tia Dantzler long before the inception of MTM. Needless to say, I was thrilled and honored when Tia granted my request for an interview. Read on to find out what brands of foundation Tia recommends for women of color, as well brand recommendations for beauties on a budget!
MTM: Tell me a little bit about your background.
TD: My gift as a makeup artist has created a path for me both in the celebrity world to almost every form of media from tv, film and print to name a few. I've been in the beauty industry for eight years now and boy does time fly. I've had the pleasure of working with a diverse group of Politicians, Musicians as well as Actors who include President Barack Obama, Jennifer Hudson, Maxwell, Fantasia, Kanye, Gabby Sidibe, Lalah Hathaway, Chandra Wilson, Common and many more.
MTM: As a darker-skinned African American woman, I find it difficult to shop for foundation. Are there any brands out there you can recommend to make it a bit easier?
TD: Yes, there are so many brands on the market now that cater to darker skin and I'm excited about it. Some of the cosmetic lines that offer a great color selection in my opinion are M.A.C., Bobbi Brown, Black Opal and Cover Girl Queen Collection to name a few. Sometimes if one foundation didn't work for you try another foundation within the same cosmetic line because texture can make a huge difference.
MTM: Do you recommend using more than one color of foundation at a time, or would you advise the novices to leave the blending work to the pros?
TD: Yes, sometimes I blend as many as 3 shades to achieve the desired tone I'm looking for. It is certainly possible to have more than one skin-tone on our faces. For everyday makeup I would stick with one shade and perhaps a concealer one shade lighter if needed.
MTM: What are some quality drug-store brands you can recommend to beauties on a budget?
TD: You can find some great products at the drugstore that give great color pay-off such as, Black Opal, Wet & Wild, Milani and Iman to name a few. Cover Girl, Maybeline and Rimmell have some of the best mascaras too.
MTM: How often should we replace our makeup?
TD: As far as mascaras, I would discard after 3 months. Some foundations can be used up to a year. If you start smelling odors or the mascara starts to dry out that's a sure sign to toss out. Please make sure to tightly secure all tops on products to keep bacteria from quickly building up.
MTM: I love the look you did for Jennifer Hudson on the cover of Essence; what are some tips or ticks you can offer to get that red carpet flawless finish at home?
TD: I'm big on maintaining a daily skincare regimen to maintain great skin. I would suggest starting off cleansing and moisturizing before you apply foundation especially powder because moisturizer just helps your makeup lay pretty. Achieving a flawless look can take some time and patience depending on your skin condition. Primers are another sure way to prep and prepare skin for concealer and foundation applications. I absolutely love highlighters which gives your skin a glow without the sun. I love to place the highlighter just above the cheekbones for a fresh glow.
MTM: For those that are new to makeup, or the beauty mavens that just want to consolidate their makeup arsenal, what are four beauty products every woman should have?
TD: Four must have products are: foundation to even your skin-tone, mascara to open up your eyes and bring definition all at the same time, Eyeliner to really make your eyes pop and to give them shape, and lastly a nice lip color that compliments your skin-tone.
MTM: And finally, what hues on the runway are hot right now that would translate on African American skin-tones?
TD: The color purple ruled the runways this season which is a great choice because it comes in so many hues. Another great reason to love this color is that it ranges from cool to warm tones so everybody can rock purple and look great. Bold lips in purples, reds and deep burgundy were also a hit during fashion week.
Want to find out more about Tia Dantzler?
Website: www.tiadantzler.net
Facebook Fan Page: Tia Dantzler's FB Fan Page
Twitter: www.twitter.com/tiadantzler
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Clear + Hydrated Skin The Natural Way - Natural Oils Your Skin Will Thank You For + Giveaway Winner Announced
Her skin + makeup + jewelry is totally on point! [source]
First order of business; I want to give a big thank you everyone who entered the Peace Images Giveaway! We had some amazing entries, but there can only be one winner! - The winner of the Peace Images Giveaway is; Michelle! Michelle said:
Where many see disaster, a fierce black woman sees a way, where many see despair, a fierce black woman sees hope, where many see no way a fierce black woman MAKES one. A fierce black woman is assertive,she is strong, she is bold, she is you, she is me. :)
Michelle please send an email with your name and mailing address to: nikole@themoptopmaven.com to claim your gift! - A big thank you to Camille of Peace Images for graciously sponsoring this giveaway! If you didn't win this week, check out the new giveaway this week from our gracious sponsor Casa Di Culture!
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Ok now on to the deets! - A lot of people cringe at the thought of using oil on the skin. However the truth is, if you use the right oil for your skin type you could have skin that is glowy, youthful and ultra hydrated. If you're looking to ditch your facial moisturizer, or you want to start experimenting with your Oil Cleansing Formula, here are a few must-haves your skin will definitely thank you for!
Dry/Mature Skin
Evening Primrose: This oil is high in Gamma-Linolenic Acid which beneficial in treating skin conditions such as acne, rosacea, eczema, as well as minimizing fine lines and wrinkles. Evening primrose also hydrates the skin leaving it soft, supple and smooth.
- Can be found online {here}
- Can be found online {here}
Kukui Oil: This highly absorbent ultra hydrating oil has an abundance of fatty acids and is beneficial for treating eczema, psoriasis and acne.
- Can be found online {here}.
- Can be found online {here}.
Avocado Oil: This rich oil contains amino acids, sterols, fatty acids, Vitamin A, B1, B2, D & E. Avocado oil makes for a wonderful dual-purpose moisturizer, as it treats skin conditions like eczema, psoriasis and rosacea while keeping the skin soft, hydrated and protected.
- Can be found online {here}.
- Can be found online {here}.
Oily/Blemish Prone
Grapeseed Oil: Hands down one of my favorite oils to use on my skin. Grapeseed oil is incredibly light yet makes the perfect moisturizer for skin. Grapeseed Oil makes for a wonderful after shower moisturizer as well. The astringent and antioxidant properties of Grapeseed Oil means that it will leave your skin toned, clear, bright, and blemish free.
- Found in the cooking isle of most grocery stores. Can also be found online {here}.
- Found in the cooking isle of most grocery stores. Can also be found online {here}.
Hazelnut Oil: This is another favorite of mine [I use this in my Oil Cleansing Mixture]. Hazelnut Oil also has mild astringent properties and is light enough for those with oily skin. This oil will keep your skin toned, even and most importantly, free of blemishes!
- This oil can be found in the beauty isle of most Health Food Stores, or {here}.
- This oil can be found in the beauty isle of most Health Food Stores, or {here}.
Borage Oil: Borage Oil contains a high amount of Gamma-Linolenic Acids which is beneficial for treating various types of skin inflammation from acne to eczema as well as psoriasis. Borage Oil helps calm, sooth and reduce swelling in inflamed areas.
- This oil can be purchased online {here}.
- This oil can be purchased online {here}.
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Monday, September 27, 2010
Nothing Fails
Hello, How are ya? I am doing great today. 24 yrs ago today I married the best friend I have ever had. I remember it like yesterday, there we were at the JP in Quincy Ma and all of us were more than willing to rush through the ceremony because the red sox's were in the world series, shot gun for sure LOL! It's funny too that I wound up getting married on my little brothers birthday because when we were little we swore we would get married so we would never have to be apart. I was very protective of him, and how we cried when we found out we could not marry each other!! Although we have been together for 27 yrs I truly love him more today than I did back then. The first time I saw him I said to my girlfriends, oh ya, I think I'd like to marry him, I'd never get sick of looking at him LOL! So shallow of me huh! But if you had seen him in just a leather vest with a golden tan and the curly hair and bright blue eyes, I think most of you ladies would understand :) I chose this song to make this video with because so far we have not failed, especially after the past year, if that didn't do us in I don't know what could. I believe in the power of words that you speak too, so for the rest of my life I will speak these two simple words. Marriage in itself is a spiritual journey, a sweet one at that. And if it was not for his strength, love and support right now I don't think I would even bother to get out of bed in the morning. He is carrying me through life right now and if a day comes that his strength is not what it should be, I will carry him. With no job or unemployment any more, this is my gift to him, the best gifts of all, from the heart. All of My Love to You Pete, and Thank you, Thank you :)
Thanks for visiting my blog,
Love ya,
Janet :)
Thanks for visiting my blog,
Love ya,
Janet :)
Epicure: Lemon Sandwich Cookies
I am a fan of most things lemon. Lemon cake, lemonade, even lemon pancakes. So when I spotted these pretty little lemon sandwich cookies on Martha Stewart's site, I immediately added them to the recipe rolodex.
They were extremely easy to make, however a bit time consuming [the cookie dough has to chill for about an hour]. These heavenly cookies were the perfect marriage of lemony-buttery goodness with a kick of sophistication. You can make these as regular lemon cookies, or your can add a generous dollop of sweet, creamy lemon filling for sandwich cookies. - If you're one for hosting dinner parties, double the recipe; these make divine after-dinner delectables!
Lemon Sandwich Cookies [adapted from Martha Stewart]
Ingredients:
2 tablespoons granulated sugar, for sprinkling
Directions:
Sponsored Giveaway: Casa Di Culture
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Sunday, September 26, 2010
Forgive Those Who Trespass Against You
Hi Everyone, I bet this title grabbed your attention LOL! I hope your having a great weekend. I was thinking today about sharing another LK Meditation with all of you. As I picked up the book "The Gift of Loving Kindness Meditation" this page just opened up to me. My Higher Power must truly know me and what I need. Right now in my life I have so much anger and hate towards a few people because of the way they chose to deal with me. I don't like feeling this way, but I feel I was handed a punishment way above and beyond for what my actions were. I was in a blackout for the most part to be honest with all of you, ya about 99 percent of the time, I know it's no excuse, but it is the truth. I would have never done the things I did if I was aware of what I was doing, and I know that because I have not repeated that behavior since I got out of rehab. I have truly never wanted to do anything but love and forgive others that have done wrong by me, so I may receive the same in return. I was raised Catholic, that was instilled in me from a very young age. Of course life does not work out that way for the most part. So this is for all of you too who are working like me to get rid of that hate and anger and move towards forgiveness of others in your life for your own sense of peace inside. I will need to practice this a lot, I know I have a way to go before I get to this place, but at least I'm trying. God knows I have nothing but time to try!!
Thanks for visiting my blog,
Love ya,
Janet :)
Forgive Those Who Trespass Against You
Behind the harmful actions of another person is probably a person in pain, someone whose beauty is eclipsed by inner turmoil. A life story you don't know, for you have never walked in their shoes. You don't know how their life experiences have challanged them. When your in a place of being unable to forgive them try either a formal or informal way of meditation. Simply say to yourself "I just wish others would forgive me for any harm I have caused them, I wish to forgive those who have harmed me" That we may cultivate a kind and loving relationship here in the present." These phrases are meant to arouse the feeling of living-kindness in you. Once the feeling arises, switch from saying the phrase to just simply feeling the loving kindness. If your not in a place yet to fully feel this way towards the ones that harmed you, simply return to the phrases and try again, or try again another day. Progress my friends, not perfection:)
Thanks for visiting my blog,
Love ya,
Janet :)
Forgive Those Who Trespass Against You
Behind the harmful actions of another person is probably a person in pain, someone whose beauty is eclipsed by inner turmoil. A life story you don't know, for you have never walked in their shoes. You don't know how their life experiences have challanged them. When your in a place of being unable to forgive them try either a formal or informal way of meditation. Simply say to yourself "I just wish others would forgive me for any harm I have caused them, I wish to forgive those who have harmed me" That we may cultivate a kind and loving relationship here in the present." These phrases are meant to arouse the feeling of living-kindness in you. Once the feeling arises, switch from saying the phrase to just simply feeling the loving kindness. If your not in a place yet to fully feel this way towards the ones that harmed you, simply return to the phrases and try again, or try again another day. Progress my friends, not perfection:)
Friday, September 24, 2010
Wearing a Sew-In Weave As a Protective Style? Here's What You Need To Know!
[source]Is it possible to retain length using a sew-in as a protective style? The answer is yes, and only under conditions in which you are very diligent when it comes to caring for your hair. Most breakage and horror stories stems from stylists who don't know the proper amount of tension when it comes to cornrowing hair for the install. As a result, you are left with hair that is thin, see-through, fragile and in desperate need of a major haircut.
Other horror stories are as a result of women installing sew-ins on hair that is too weak to withstand any amount of stress for long periods of time. If you are suffering from severe breakage due to relaxers, or color services, I wouldn't recommend a sew-in install [or anything that places tension on the hair for an extended duration]. A sew-in will only further exasperate your issues leaving you with hair more damaged after the install than it was before.
Finally; you will experience damage if you neglect to follow a regular maintenance routine. The amount of damage varies from breakage in areas that are more prone to damage, to complete hair loss in others.
You can wear sew-ins successfully if:
- The braids are firm but not tight
- You use human hair instead of synthetic
- Use silk thread in lieu of cotton
- Use a protein treatment before and after each install
- Shampoo hair regularly
- Moisturize regularly
- Leave hair out around hairline, or opt for small individuals
tight. Most major damage from extensions stems from hair loss due to stressed follicles. Hair loss can occur after one visit, or several depending on the stylist.
- If you get a sew-in and you see white bumps along your hairline, or your scalp is "raised and gathered" along parts of your scalp; the install is too tight.
Use silk thread: Although any stress over a period of time can have adverse reactions to your strands, silk thread can lessen the chances of damage. Most thread used for sew-in extensions is comprised of cotton. The friction from the cotton rubbing your tresses can cause breakage as well as split ends. Silk is a much better fiber to use, albeit a little more expensive.
Regular protein treatments are key: Stress from braiding and the tension from the thread sewn around the braids can make for a weakened shaft structure. It is imperative to maintain regular protein treatments to strengthen the hair and prevent excess breakage. How often you decide to use a protein treatment depends on the condition of your hair, and the amount of time spent wearing a weave. I recommend protein treatments before and after each install [provided you go at least 6-8 weeks between installs].
Leave out the hair around your hairline: It may not be the most popular choice, however you can save your hair from thinning and breakage around the hairline. Opt for curly hair instead of straight so that you can blend your hair seamlessly with the extensions. Choosing curly hair will also mean less heat from thermal styling as well.
Don't want to leave your hairline out? Try small individuals along the hairline and nape area. Individuals are less stress on the hairline versus cornrows; which makes them a great hassle-free option.
- If you use this method of individuals along the hairline and nape; it is recommend that you re-braid the individuals every 2 weeks to prevent knotting at the root.
Use human hair: Synthetic hair has a tendency to cause breakage due to the texture of the fibers. To alleviate damage from friction, choose human hair in lieu of synthetic.
Keep hair clean: Hair that is compacted on to your scalp is a breeding ground for bacteria, dead skin, and excess sebum. If left untreated, hair loss and thinning can occur. Shampoo hair [focusing on your scalp once a week] once a week to keep your scalp clean and able to absorb moisture.
- Fill an applicator bottle with shampoo water & 1 teaspoon of Apple Cider Vinegar. Squirt this mixture in between your cornrows, and slightly massage area to remove buildup. Rinse well, braid in four large sections, and allow to dry thoroughly.
Moisturize religiously: Hair that is dry is more prone to breakage. Moisturizing your hair while wearing extensions is an essential part of maintaining a healthy hair regimen.
- Fill an applicator bottle with your favorite moisturizer or a bit of leave-in conditioner diluted with water. Apply mixture to scalp every other day.
If you follow the methods outlined above: You should be able to leave your install in for up to 3 months. It is recommended that you take 1-2 month breaks in between installs to allow your hair and scalp the chance to breathe and recuperate.
[2] Keracare Gentle Cleansing Shampoo For Wigs & Extensions
Here are some products to get to know if you plan on wearing a sew-in:
[1] Jane Carter's Scalp Renew: An amazing product that helps maintain a healthy scalp and remedy all issues related to inflammation.- [Use every other day after moisturizing][2] Keracare Gentle Cleansing Shampoo For Wigs & Extensions
Thursday, September 23, 2010
Friday Funnies
Hi Everyone, Happy Friday, here are my funny picks for the week. I am just lovin this Tru Tv lately! Their videos continue to remind me that human behavior is simply unpredictable and there are many fascinating people out there that I don't care to know!! Enjoy,
Thanks for visiting my blog,
Love ya,
Janet :)
All I can say is "WOW"
Seriously, this can't be for real!!
Seems to me that she is quite use to doing this
with him LOL!!
Thanks for visiting my blog,
Love ya,
Janet :)
All I can say is "WOW"
Seriously, this can't be for real!!
Seems to me that she is quite use to doing this
with him LOL!!
Eat | Drink | Play : Vince + Nylon Party
Last night Lo and I headed to Melrose Place for an evening of fashion and music. The soiree was curated by Vince and Nylon Magazine, whilst Reyka & Dirty Blonde cocktails provided libations on the house.
I spent the night mingling, people watching [through the lens of my camera] and making new friends. Here are some of my fashionable highlights of the night:
Free mags that were strategically placed on the mannequins heads
Catching up with Lo! It's been a minute; she's been super busy as of late
Gawking over her gorgeous mane! She was super sweet and adorable!
Eying her Alexander Wang bag. I will settle for a DIY for now.
I loved her over-the-knee socks. Perfect accessory for a fall collegiate look.
I loved her entire outfit! Very casual yet chic. Still kicking myself for forgetting to ask about her necklace!
Even her shoes were ultra femme! They were sky-high double-stacked platforms!
I love Victorian-style billowy slip dreses! Her look was polished from her 3/4 length cardi to her lavender nails!
I loved the juxtaposition between the asymmetrical feminine top and the hard leather bomber. The baubles around her neck was a nice touch as well!
A nice classic black purse that will last for years is on my wish-list. Although I may not start off with a Chanel bag [for obvious reasons, seen the price tag on those lately?].
These two were super sweet and stylish
One feather earring is always a nice touch!
Orchids, my favorite. If you're ever in the L.A area, stop by Vince on Melrose Place; they amazing pieces for men and women!
Garments:
Dress: Marciano Flamenco Style Wrap
Jeans: Marc Jacob Skinnies
Jacket: Zara
Lipstick: Intriguing - Stila
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Mini Makeup Haul >> Brown Girls Can Wear Color Too
I picked up a few new colors of eyeshadow after being inspired by the beauty section in the latest issue of Essence [Oct 2010]. Here is the pic for reference:
The model is wearing black eyeliner on her upper lashline and swept a pretty green color along the lower lashline. While I love experimenting with different colors of eyeshadow, I don't always want to wear color on my lids, especially during the day. This look is perfect for those that want a more of a clean natural look, topped off with a bit of color-play for a fun twist.
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| NYX - Yellow Pearl [$5.50] | Stila - Jade [$18.00] | MAC - Rose Pigment [$19.50] | MAC - Rubenesque Paint Pot [$16.50] |
I used the following products to create this look:
- Aqua Eyes Eyeliner Pencil - Hands down the best eyeliner I have ever tried!
- Jade Eyeshadow - This is a deep highly pigmented green that looks great on fair and darker skin alike.
- 219 Pencil Brush - This is an indispensable tool for applying eyeliner near the upper or lower lashline
Tips: To intensify the eyeshadow color for darker skin tones, spray a bit of MAC Fix Plus spray on your makeup brush before picking up the product.
For more of a fresh-faced look, pick peachy toned or barely there shades of blush [I used Sweet as Cocoa by MAC]. Top it off with brows that are lightly filled in, and swipe a few coats of mascara on your lashes.
I used the same eyeliner + blush + lipstick, and experimented with Yellow Pearl by NYX! NYX is becoming one of my go-to brands for eyeshadow. They are inexpensive, highly pigmented, and last a long time when used with an eyeshadow base.
This is a feminine look you can wear during the day or on a casual date!
This is another look utilizing colored eyeshadow yet still maintaining a natural appearance. The type shadow that I used for this application is a pigment [Rose Pigment by MAC]. It's a concentrated shadow in loose form that can be used to create anything from a natural soft look, to an intense look.
I actually used an eyeshadow base underneath the pigment [for more dimension] that I absolutely love [also purchased recently]called Rubenesque Paint Pot by MAC. It's the perfect warm colored base to use under shimmery colors without lending a cake-like appearance.
Tip: Many people ask me if using an eyeshadow base is necessary. For me, it absolutely is if I want eyeshadow's to show up on my skin true-to-color. I avoided colored shadow so long because everything either had an ashy like appearance, or the color was dull and washed out.
Eyeshadow bases also helps keep your shadow from creasing which is major plus if you wear makeup for extended periods of time.
If you happen to pick up Essence Magazine this month you will find me in the Street Style section of the magazine!
Here I am right next to my wonder twin Lo!
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