Fighter

Hi Everyone,Happy Music Monday. In honor of the Movie "The Fighter" and all the awards it won, I chose this song for today. This is for all of you too, who fight an addiction, or a disease, or anything in your life everyday. Keep up the fight, and don't ever let anything or anyone make you feel you can't win! Thank those along the way who have hurt you with their words or actions because in the long run they have only made you stronger!!, no doubt about it for me it has!
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Love ya,
Janet :)

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Busted On Google

Hi Everyone, Happy Saturday, Here a few things I have come across either on the internet or Facebook. I hope you have a few laughs for yourselves! Most of all though, I hope you have a great weekend :)
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Love ya,
Janet :)

Google Proves Humanity Is Sick and Sad, Yet Absolutely Hilarious!













According to Google's search, 303,000 people out there were "extremely terrified of Chinese people". We got deeper into Humanity's brain, and got a list of hilarious and scary findings:

• 5,310,000 pages from people asking or answering: How to get pregnant.
• 69,400,000 people asking How to make money.
• 32,600,000: How to get over someone.
• 3,290,000: Who do I have to be to make you sleep with me.
• 841,000: I have a large cat in my pants.
• 3,300,000: I have a large uterus.
• 112,000: I have a lovely bunch of coconuts (lots of swallows surfing the web).
• 256,000,000: I want to die.
• 3,160,000: Why do I fart so much.
• 528,000: Why do indians smell.
• 63,500,000: Why do I sleep so much.
• 680,000: Why do I have green poop.
• 883,000,000: Why do I have no friends.
• 7,570,000: Why do I have diarrhea.
• 4,170,000: Why do I have so much discharge.
• 7,120,000: Why do I have to pee so much.
• 230,000,000: Why do I have gas or so much gas.
• 456,000: Why do men have nipples.
• 6,000,000: Why men don't call.
• 8,380,000: Why men lie.
• 11,000,000: Why women have affairs.
• 36,500,000: Why women lie.
• 94,200,000: Why Obama should be president.
• 19,100,000: Why Obama should not be president.
• 42,300: Why Luke Skywalker is an idiot.
• 1,610,000: I would like to buy a hamburger.
• 286,000: I would like to extend you an invitation to the pants party (at Jason's house, in Jason's pants).
• 818,000: I think im pregnant.
• 442,000: I hate Indiana Jones 4.
• Almost 800,000,000: Who do I vote for.
• 4,980,000: I want a new drug.
• 114,000,000: I want a wife (114 million people are nuts).
• 783,000: I have one testicle.
• 21,900,000: I have one more drink.
• 12,400,000: I have three breasts.
• 320,000: I have three testicles.
• 1,580,000: I have three girlfriends.
• 610,000: I have four sides, all opposite sides are parallel, I have no right angles. What am I.
• 159,000,000: When to work.
• 126,000,000: When to say I love you.
• 2,730,000: Sleep is for sissies.
• 2,890,000: I smeel like poop.
• 1,510,000: What is a recession.
• 1,400,000: I have a hard time swallowing.
• 338,000: I have a big bag of crabs here.
• 1,060,000: Sex is for making babies and revenge.

How to Achieve Inner Peace
Here's some advice from a top psychologist:
Dr. Neil proclaimed the way to achieve inner peace is to finish all the things you have started. So I looked around my house to see things I started and hadn't finished; and, before leaving the house this morning, I finished off a bottle of Pinot Noir, a bottle of Chardonnay, a bottle of Baileys, a bottle of Kaluha, a packet of Penguins, the remainder of bottle of Prozac, Valium prescriptions, the rest of the Cheesecake, and a box of chocolates. You have no idea how good I feel!
(If this is real I'm jealous,LOL!)

Update

Hey all! My inbox was flooded today with concerned folks asking if I was ok, if I was coming back, what happened to me etc.  Today happens to be one of my better days, and I was urged to post an update while I felt up to it. About a year or so ago I was diagnosed with a hereditary disease called Wilson's disease. Late last year my symptoms flared up pretty bad which caused numerous hospital visits and me pretty much sleeping or in bed all day due to extreme nausea, gastrointestinal issues and fatigue. 

My mom will continue to respond to emails while I recuperate, however I will not be filling any orders until further notice [except replacement items, pieces that needed to be re-sized etc OR unless you have received an email with an expected ship date from my mother].  I do apologize for the inconvenience. Those with pending orders will receive a refund via Paypal. My mom has her hands full taking care of me, my daughter, and her other two children, so if you have yet to receive a refund via Paypal, you can also file a "non-received item" dispute via Paypal which will initiate the refund process.

I would like to resume posting this week, however until I get on the right dose of meds; I have to take it day by day!! Thank you everyone who sent prayers, offers to help, my way! It is truly appreciated :-)

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The Key to a Well-Lived Life: Lighten Up!

Hi, I hope you are all doing well today. I love this article by Elizabeth, it is just what I needed to read today, so I thought I would share it with all of you who, like me, are also stressing yourself sick over fears of inadequacy that Elizabeth talks about. Really, we do all need to lighten up! Remember too, as Oprah say's, "Failure is just a way for our lives to show us we're moving in the wrong direction, that we should try something different." Don't I know that now for sure! Everyday I have to work at being happy where I am now in my life, (as you can tell by my last post) and know I'm doing the best I can at this moment, otherwise I will give up and give into those negative feelings and self doubt, so give it a try if you need too, one day a time.
Thanks for visiting my blog,
Love ya,
Janet :)



The key to a well-lived life, according to Elizabeth Gilbert: Screw up (often, and boldly), learn from your mistakes, repeat!

Nearly all the women I know are stressing themselves sick over the pathological fear that they simply aren't doing enough with their lives. Which is crazy—absolutely flat-out bananas—because the women I know do a lot, and they do it well. My cousin Sarah, for instance, is earning her master's degree in international relations, while simultaneously working for a nonprofit that builds playgrounds at woefully underfunded public schools. Kate is staying home and raising the two most enchanting children I've ever met—while also working on a cookbook. Donna is producing Hollywood blockbusters; Stacy is running a London bank; Polly just launched an artisanal bakery...

By all rights, every one of these clever, inventive women should be radiant with self-satisfaction. Instead, they twitch with near-constant doubt, somehow worrying that they are failing at life. Sarah worries that she should be traveling around the world instead of committing to a master's degree. Kate worries that she's wasting her education by staying home with her kids. Donna worries that she's endangering her marriage by working such long hours. Stacy worries that the capitalistic world of banking is murdering her creativity. Polly worries that her artisanal bakery might not be quite capitalistic enough. All of them worry that they need to lose 10 pounds.

It's terribly frustrating for me to witness this endless second-guessing. The problem is, I do it, too. Despite having written five books, I worry that I have not written the right kinds of books, or that perhaps I have dedicated too much of my life to writing, and have therefore neglected other aspects of my being. (Like, I could really stand to lose 10 pounds.)

So here's what I want to know: Can we lighten up a little?

As we head into this next decade, can we draft a joint resolution to drop the crazy-making expectation that we must all be perfect friends and perfect mothers and perfect workers and perfect lovers with perfect bodies who dedicate ourselves to charity and grow our own organic vegetables, at the same time that we run corporations and stand on our heads while playing the guitar with our feet?

When I look at my life and the lives of my female friends these days—with our dizzying number of opportunities and talents—I sometimes feel as though we are all mice in a giant experimental maze, scurrying around frantically, trying to find our way through. But maybe there's a good historical reason for all this overwhelming confusion. We don't have centuries of educated, autonomous female role models to imitate here (there were no women quite like us until very recently), so nobody has given us a map. As a result, we each race forth blindly into this new maze of limitless options. And the risks are steep. We make mistakes. We take sharp turns, hoping to stumble on an open path, only to bump into dead-end walls and have to back up and start all over again. We push mysterious levers, hoping to earn a reward, only to learn—whoops, that was a suffering button!

The thrill of falling flat on your face (really)

To make matters even more stressful, we constantly measure ourselves against each other's progress, which is a truly dreadful habit. My sister, Catherine, told me recently about a conversation she'd had with a sweet neighbor who—after watching Catherine spend an afternoon organizing a scavenger hunt for all the local kids—said sadly, "You're such a better mother than I will ever be." At which point, my sister grabbed her friend's hands and said, "Please. Let's not do this to each other, okay?"

No, seriously—please. Let's not.

Because it breaks my heart to know that so many amazing women are waking up at 3 o'clock in the morning and abusing themselves for not having gone to art school, or for not having learned to speak French, or for not having organized the neighborhood scavenger hunt. I fear that—if we continue this mad quest for perfection—we will all end up as stressed-out and jumpy as those stray cats who live in Dumpsters behind Chinese restaurants, forever scavenging for scraps of survival while pulling out their own hair in hypervigilant anxiety.

So let's drop it, maybe?

Let's just anticipate that we (all of us) will disappoint ourselves somehow in the decade to come. Go ahead and let it happen. Let somebody else be a better mother than you for one afternoon. Let somebody else go to art school. Let somebody else have a happy marriage, while you foolishly pick the wrong guy. (Hell, I've done it; it's survivable.) While you're at it, take the wrong job. Move to the wrong city. Lose your temper in front of the boss, quit training for that marathon, wolf down a truckload of cupcakes the day after you start your diet. Blow it all catastrophically, in fact, and then start over with good cheer. This is what we all must learn to do, for this is how maps get charted—by taking wrong turns that lead to surprising passageways that open into spectacularly unexpected new worlds. So just march on. Future generations will thank you—trust me—for showing the way, for beating brave new footpaths out of wonky old mistakes.

Fall flat on your face if you must, but please, for the sake of us all, do not stop.

Map your own life!!

By Elizabeth Gilbert who is also the author of Eat, Pray, Love and knows a thing or two about falling flat on your face, choosing the wrong guy, blowing up at your boss, and above all--waking up the next morning to do it all again, with a smile!

SNL

Hi Everyone, Here are some Saturday Night Laughs for you! Enjoy :)
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Love ya,
Janet

Their Back!

Cry Your Heart Out

Hi Everyone, I hope you are all doing well. I came across this book on Facebook. It was good for me to read this excerpt, as I have had a few good cry's over the past couple of years. I suffered a lot of loss at once. Even though I have been feeling much more upbeat the past few months, this past year has been tough. Being alone everyday, gets so quiet, that at times, the tears begin to fall quite easily. I don't like to write about this, I want to keep my posts on the upbeat, but sometimes you just need to share, get it out. In the quiet, I often reflect and think about how I got to this place, this place of isolation. It is all due to my actions under the influence of Alcohol. The feelings of much regret and remorse for my stupid, stupid actions are overwhelming, but I cry if I need to and keep moving on. Eventually the tears and feelings will go away as time brings about better things for me. I have faith in that. I hope this helps any of you who feel you need a good cry to get through some things in your life right now. Don't feel weak, eventually, like it say's below, you and I will get passed whatever it is hurting us, and come out of it in a beautiful place, like a garden.
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Love ya,
Janet :)



CRY YOUR HEART OUT
An Excerpt from The Ten Things to Do When Your Life Falls Apart

“He who sits in the house of grief will eventually sit in the garden.”
— Hafiz

Hard times, more than any others, reveal to us the truth that the signature of our humanity is our emotional nature. What differentiates us from stones and butterflies is the degree to which what happens to us affects us on an emotional level. We don’t just experience things — get a divorce, lose our house, watch our dog die from eating poison — we have feelings about these events. It is the depth and nuance of our feelings — of our joy, sorrow, anger, and fear — that give texture to our humanity.

Sorrow and grief are the emotions that apply when we experience loss, and crying is the body’s mechanism for expressing grief. It may seem self-evident that we should cry when we’re in pain, but it’s surprising how much we resist our tears. Often it is only when we’ve been overtaken by them that we finally discover how terribly aggrieved we are.

We live in a culture that’s afraid of grieving; we don’t know how to cry. When our lives fall apart in one way or another, we usually try to take control of things and solve them, forget them, or deny them — rather than experience them, accept them, or see the meaning they may hold for us. That’s because underlying many of our responses to difficulty is the unstated assumption that we should be able to engage in life, liberty, and the unbridled pursuit of happiness without ever having to grieve — over anything. It’s almost as if we believe that pain, suffering, and challenge are bad and should never be a part of our path.

The truth is that pain is one of our greatest teachers, hurt can be a birth, and our sufferings are the portals to change. This being true, we need to know how to grieve, to mourn, to shed our tears, because grief is the cure for the pain of loss. Tears are the medicine of grieving.

When life is hard, when you’re in a crisis, you should cry not because you’re weak but because crying holds the power of healing. Tears, in fact, are the vehicle for transformation. When you cry, your loss moves through you to the point of exit. What was holding you up and eating you up, what was stuck inside your body, gets released and moves outside your body. Your physical structure is quite literally cleansed and, like a blackboard sponged clean, is available to receive the imprint of whatever wants to come next. That’s why, when you have cried, you will be reborn, free to begin again.

Hard Afternoons on the Couch
It has been clinically demonstrated that when you suppress sadness you also suppress positive emotions. What we don’t feel on one end of the emotional spectrum, we don’t feel on the other. As a consequence, people who try to be happy all the time, who suppress what they perceive to be the “negative” emotions of sorrow and grief, actually, over time, become more anxious and depressed. Crying is not a sign of weakness; we shouldn’t staunch our tears. They’re a healing balm, a river to the future.

I don’t know about you, but I’ve had a bunch of really great cries in my life — days, afternoons, and nights when I took to the couch or my bed and liter-ally wailed about the hardships of life. I’ve cried over sweethearts who left, lovers I couldn’t get rid of, bad decisions, feeling forsaken by God, people who didn’t “get” me, wrecking my dancing shoes, selling my house, feeling isolated, wretched, and unloved, and feeling the impending sorrow of death. I have cried because of my stupidity, my naïveté, and my lack of courage, because of tornadoes and earthquakes, because of money I lost and money that was stolen from me (a lot of both).

At times I’ve been surprised by the magnitude of my tears, by the amount of sheer wailing and letting go that certain circumstances called for. I’ve been shocked, almost worried that such a big cry might have been some sort of hysterical emotional excess, some kind of performance. But the quiet integration, the fragile and yet sublime peace that followed each vintage cry was the measure of the healing power of those tears.

I’ve always felt better because of having cried. I have felt reglued, reborn, strong, silken, vulnerable, permeable, powerful, radical, formidable, tender, pure, loving, exquisite, invincible, clear, new, real, whole.

When you stop and think about it, there are things worth crying about every day. So cry, for God’s sake. Cry your heart out.
Daphne Rose Kingma

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You're Still The One

Hi Everyone, Happy Valentines Day. It is with a grateful heart that I still celebrate this day with my husband after 28 years :) I hope you all have a day full of love.
Thanks for visiting my blog,
Love ya,
Janet :)

Partnering Through Change

Hello Everyone, I hope you are all having a great weekend. I thought this would be a great article to share as we are about to celebrate Valentines Day. Isn't growing together as a couple the best gift to give each other? Ya, I thought you would agree with me :)
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Love ya,
Janet :)



In relationships, we have the opportunities to develop a deeper sense of ourselves through the mirror of our partner. If you have a generous, loving partnership, then you are possibly learning lessons related to creating a generous and loving relationship with your inner self as well. If you are in an abusive relationship, are you seeing the mirror of your relationship with your self?

We have the tendency to repeat certain patterns in our relationships. It seems we take the best and the worst within ourselves and project it into the container that is our relationship. We use the relationship as a testing ground.

However, when we go through changes or life transitions, it may put additional stress on the partnership by having little time for each other, being agitated and upset, etc. One person in the relationship isn't experiencing change, they both are. If one person in the mirror changes, then the other will reflect that change. These may be positive changes or can be a stirring up of old issues that haven't yet been healed or released.

In a partnership, we partner through change as well as through stability. Life is constantly changing around us and our ability to remain flexible and grow together make for a stronger spiritual relationship.

Choosing to look in the mirror of our partner, you see aspects of yourself that may be ready for transformation or release. Is there something that irritates you about your spouse? Is there a common argument that you have? Do you share similar views on many things, but have a particular stuck point on one subject?

Instead of leaping first to blame or lash out at your partner, look into the mirror and see what is there for you to see. Is there something attempting to get your attention? Are you faced with this same theme over and over again? Is there a deeper issue regarding change that you're avoiding or overlooking?

Change itself can be a scary experience for some. In partnerships, change can feel threatening to the solid foundation or nest that you have built together. When one partner is undergoing deep internal changes, the other may feel left out, neglected, no longer connected and unappreciated. If that partner refuses to reflect upon the mirror that he/she is presented with, and chooses not to undergo changes as well, the mirror becomes out of balance. There is no longer a reflection of each other. One person has changed more than the other is willing to change. This is when struggle appears in the relationship.

In a spiritual relationship, partners consciously work through these changes, each partner facing their inner feelings, looking in the mirror to see that which is ready for transformation. A spiritual relationship as such requires tremendous courage for both partners, trusting that the other will continue to transform and flow with the changes along with you. Any relationship requires courage and trust. Communication is a necessary aspect of partnership and courage is most valuable. Stepping up to the plate and facing yourself in the mirror everyday can be exciting, thrilling and challenging. Allowing it to be something you face together every day is powerful and is the cornerstone of a spiritual partnership.
written by Jaelin K. Reece

Friday Fun

Hi Everyone,Happy Friday, You'll get a few laughs out of these videos, especially the family feud one, Enjoy,
Thanks for visiting my blog,
Have a great day,
Janet :)

Ray Of Light Edited

Hi Everyone, Hope all is well with you. This is how I'm feeling today! Feeling like a ray of light, full of positive energy, because I think I have finally beaten my worst addiction, cigarettes! It's been two weeks and I feel better every day, I have tried to quit before, quite a few times, and have always gone back, but this time it feels different. I have not bought a pack of cigarettes like I use to to have in case I need one,(and I love all the money I am saving!) I actually feel more calm without them, that has never happened before LOL! But I think most of all I feel like I am just starting my life over and I want to live as long as possible, especially for my kids and grand kids, and feel good while doing it! Each year it seems my universe has gone by more quickly! I'm going to do my best to carry this feeling with me every day to help me keep winning my battles. So I wish for you today that you focus on the positive in some aspect of your life, and pass on that energy to those around you, be a ray of light for others, only good can come from being positive!
Thanks for visiting my blog,
Love ya,
Janet :)

And I FEEL!!


Zephyr in the sky at night I wonder
Do my tears of mourning sink beneath the sun
She's got herself a universe gone quickly
For the call of thunder threatens everyone

And I feel like I just got home
And I feel

Faster than the speeding light she's flying
Trying to remember where it all began
She's got herself a little piece of heaven
Waiting for the time when Earth shall be as one

Quicker than a ray of light
Then gone for
Someone else shall be there
Through the endless years

She's got herself a universe
And I feel
And I feel like I just got home

Quicker than a ray of light she's flying
Quicker than a ray of light I'm flying!!

Had a great sleepover this weekend,
with the kids, it's so much fun being Mimi!


Bri's first snowman this year :)


Too cute huh!


Speaking of flying, don't mind the video is sideways,
no fear kids, no fear!

5 Steps to a More Resilient You

Hi Everyone, This article offers some good advice to help us all get back up and keep on going after a difficult time in our lives.
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Love ya,
Janet :)



Resiliency is what makes some people able to bounce back after a particularly traumatic or difficult time or stressor in one’s life, while others fall apart. It is a component of positive psychology, in that researchers try and figure out what makes resilient people different than others. And then seeks to help others learn some simple skills that may be able to help build resiliency in one’s own life.

There are no secret short-cuts to building greater resilience in your life. Most skills you can learn to help build resiliency are things that are going to take lots of time and lots of practice.

Practice is one of the things people often forget when it comes to changing one’s behavior or one’s life. You didn’t become this way overnight. It took years — and in some cases, decades — for you to learn to be the way you are today. Therefore it’s naturally going to take some time — usually months, at least — in order for you to change things about yourself. This includes building resiliency.

Here are five steps to help you get started on building more resiliency in your life.

1. Resiliency Means Accepting that All Things are Temporary

Sometimes we get stuck in our lives because we believe something is “forever.” We set ourselves up for this failure by telling ourselves that just because something has always been, it always will be. I think the death of our first parent is often our first wake-up call that things change in life. Nothing is forever.

It helps to put such change into perspective at times that change occurs, and remember that change is a natural progression of life. It doesn’t mean you should give up hope — hope is an important ingredient for our future — but it does mean you have to find a way to accept the inevitability of life’s natural rhythm. Fighting against it leads to hopelessness and feelings of frustration — two things that will make you less resilient, not more so.

2. Self-Aware People are Resilient People

If you approach some task and experience good outcomes time and time again, you begin to see yourself as effective — you get things done. You begin to understand better your own strengths and weaknesses, so when an especially difficult task challenges you, or an unexpected tragedy occurs in your life, you have a greater ability to put it into perspective. As Christy Matta, MA notes in her blog entry about resilience:

If they experience a failure, their confidence in their abilities motivates them to continue to try until they succeed. Very often they do succeed and over a lifetime become proficient in many areas.

On the other hand, doubt in oneself often leads to resignation after unsuccessful first efforts. Those who view themselves as competent and capable also often experience initial failure. The difference is that they maintain a commitment to their goal, even in the face of obstacles. A sense of competence produces continual effort, while feelings of incapability lead to capitulation.

Learn to become more self-aware and self-confident. This doesn’t mean you become a Super Person who can do anything, any time. It simply means you know what you’re good at — what you can do — and so temporary setbacks don’t turn your world upside down. It means building a positive but realistic view of yourself over time.

3. (Some) Adversity Helps You

Coping with a moderate amount of adverse events in one’s life — for instance, the death of a parent or a divorce — may be good for you. Research shows that people who have gone through some such events experience less impairment and distress than someone who’s gone through no adverse events, or someone who’s been through very traumatic events. Don’t hide from adversity — embrace it, in moderation. It will help you hone your coping skills further and better prepare you for the next event.

Adversity not only helps us build our coping skills, it also helps us put things into perspective. A person who hasn’t experienced any adversity in their life is going to have an especially hard time when the first event hits them, especially if it’s not until later in adulthood.

4. Our Social Relationships Bolster Us

Listening — really listening (sometimes called “active listening”) — to others is not only a valuable life skill to learn, it also will make you a more resilient person. Reaching out to others (see below) also helps build your resiliency during tough problem-solving phases in your life.

A good social network is a key component to helping to make you more resilient. Whether its through a group of friends, people from church, a group of people you know only from online or Facebook, or your family, being able to maintain some close relationships with other people helps a person build resilience.

5. Goal Setting and Understanding Your Problems is Important

Resilient people most often have goals — goals in their lives, their careers, their relationships, in practically everything they do. While nobody goes into a relationship expecting it to fail, someone with more resilience not only expects it to succeed, but for both them and their partner’s to grow — intellectually, emotionally, personally — while together. Goals help you move from the “Wouldn’t it be nice…” stage of thinking about something to making it more concrete and achievable.

Virtually all problems have solutions. Even if we don’t understand or see them at first, most problems in our lives can be solved. The resilient person accepts that, and thinks creatively (“outside of the box”) about some solutions that may not be obvious at first. They ask their friends, tap their social networks, and Google until midnight to look for something that may have not been obvious at first. Giving up is easy and simple to do. Working at something takes energy, motivation and effort. But in the end, working at something will also make you a more resilient person.
By John M Grohol PsyD